Thursday, July 28, 2016

If My Husband Would Change I'd Be Happy (& Other Myths Wives Believe) by Rhonda Stoppe

If My Husband Would Change I'd Be Happy
(& Other Myths Wives Believe) by Rhonda Stoppe

There are lots of non-fiction, how-to, self-help, let-me-give-you-advice books out there on how to make yourself better, your lives better, your world better BUT very few that I've ever read will meet you where you are and speak Truth-God's Truth-into your heart or in this case marriage.

Until now.

If you're like me you're probably thinking, "Hey, my marriage is good. My husband and I love each other. We don't fight much. We're making it." That's what I was thinking before I picked up this book and boy, oh boy-it took only one chapter to convict me that I was wrong. Not that my marriage isn't good-it is. But that my marriage could be better! So much better and it wasn't my husband who needed to change-it was me.

Okay, okay, okay. Before you write this book off (or me) let me tell you about this book. First, it's broken down into twelve chapters:

1. If He Would Change, I'd Be Happy: He Was Never Meant to Be Your Happily-Ever-After
2. I Will Respect Him When He Earns My Respect: The Concept of Unconditional Respect
3. I'm Falling Out of Love with Him: Staying in Love Is All in Your Mind
4. Our Kids Would Obey if He Were a Better Father: Marriage Survival Guide for Parents
5. I Would Be Happiest Married to Someone Else: The Grass Is Not Greener on the Other Side of the Fence
6. He Would Love Me More if I Were Prettier: The Secret to Keeping His Attention
7. All He Wants is Sex: When You Long for Romance
8. More Money Equals Less Stress: Grow Rich in Ways You Never Imagined
9. Every Couple Fights: Eight Steps to Making Peace
10. Our Marriage Would Be Better if Bad Things Would Stop Happening: The Joy of the Lord Is Your Strength
11. If Momma Ain't Happy, Ain't Nobody Happy: It's Not Your Husband's Job to Make You Happy
12. Happily-Ever-After Is a Fairy Tale: Ten Keys to a More Fulfilling Marriage

Rhonda Stoppe dives right into some serious myths that I discovered when I looked deep down inside
and if I was truly honest with myself that I believed. There were audible gasps. Tears. Foot-stomping. And lots and lots of prayers as Mrs. Stoppe used Biblical Scripture to point out all the ways I was doing it wrong. Still interested in this book?

I hope so.

The divorce rate is at it's highest in our country. I believe most couples going into marriage with the intention of in sickness-and-health; richer-or-poorer; better-or-worse; till death-do-us-part; but sadly, the statistics reveal that those committing, lovey-dovey couples vowing their love have a default= if it doesn't work-there's always divorce.

Rhonda Stoppe offers this book as an instrument to help women become the kind of wives God wants us to be to our men. Filled with Scripture to encourage and reveal God's desire for us, I found myself having to admit there were definitely areas in my role as a wife I could improve upon. And what was most revealing is that it wasn't because I wanted to be a perfect wife but because I wanted to honor God in my role as help-mate to my husband. Rhonda's husband, Pastor Steve Stoppe gives readers a glimpse into the husband's thoughts at the end of each chapter, which I found helpful and reassuring. There's also a Thinking It Through and Living It Out section at the end of each chapter, which help the reader apply new found truths to their lives in a tangible way.

I recently watched My Big Fat Greek Wedding 2 and the entire movie is based upon the matrimonial relationship between husband and wife. Without giving anything away (I recommend the movie-it's a fun way to have a date night with your husband!) there's a line by Aunt Voula that spoke volumes to me in light of reading this book and it's this:

"You were a girlfriend before you were a mother."

The enemy likes nothing more than division. In countries, in communities, and especially in families. I believe this book is a great tool for women to have to ensure unity, peace, love, and hope rule their marriage. Women who are engaged to be married and women who are married will find this a great resource to be the kind of wives who will bring honor their Lord, their husbands, and their families for generations to come. 

What about you? Were or are there any myths you believed about marriage? 

*I received a copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review. You can purchase your copy of If My Husband Would Change, I'd Be Happy HERE.


  1. Looks like a good book to read. Every marriage, like every person, could always be better. Thanks for the review!

    1. That's true! And I really loved how she incorporated Scripture to encourage me to be a better wife.


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