Thursday, October 20, 2016
The 10 Myths of Teen Dating by Daniel Anderson & Jacquelyn Anderson
The 10 Myths of Teen Dating by Daniel Anderson with his daughter Jacquelyn Anderson
There is no greater moment of panic in a parent s life than when their daughter begins to date. Due to their lack of knowledge about the world their teens face coupled with the scant dating information they received as teens, many parents feel ill-equipped to guide their daughters through the minefield that is teen dating. And by the same token, teenage girls crave information about dating and relationships. And left to their own devices, many will develop their own assumptions about dating by talking to their friends or watching the latest TV shows and movies. But that will only lead them down a path toward heartbreak.
So how do you engage your daughter in discussions about dating, relationships, and her future happiness? Expert educator Daniel Anderson and his twenty-something daughter, Jacquelyn, help you navigate the biggest dating myths, including: the myth that a boyfriend will make your daughter happy, that she should trust her feelings, or that sex will enhance her relationship. Combining the latest scientific research with poignant personal stories, as well as proven truths and practical application, " The 10 Myths of Teen Dating" will equip you to teach your daughter how to date smart for today and tomorrow.
An invaluable book that I wish would've been available before my daughters approached the dating age. This book is written from two perspectives-that of the father who will never be ready and that of the daughter who's always been ready (so she thinks). Although co-author Jacquelyn is grown now, she provides an insight into some of the very honest thoughts going through a girl's mind during the dating years. As a mom of two older teenage daughters, some of it I knew (through painful experience) and other was enlightening. The chapters are divided by myths teenage girls are known to believe:
If I Had a Boyfriend I Would Be Happy
I Should Trust My Feelings
I'm in Love
He Will Never Hit Me Again
And six more myths that whether my daughters admit it or not I know these thoughts have passed through their minds-because at some point they passed through mine. The chapters are filled with statics, scientific explanation, and experience by both authors and while the topics have a Christian world-view the book can be picked up by any non-believer and they would find it equally as pertinent to protecting their daughter and preparing her for the world of dating.
Preparation. That is what this book stresses. As Daniel Anderson admits, his rule for his daughter dating was to wait until she was older, more mature, read. As his daughter, Jacquelyn Anderson admits, all her father's rule did was push her to date earlier and secretly, unprepared. Both admit to the mistake of not communicating and that's what this book facilitates. Conversation. At the end of each chapter are questions for reflection and questions for dialogue between parent and daughter. The desire here is to bring up valid points of argument on both sides and discuss the truths behind the myths to prepare our daughters for the roller coaster season of dating.
It is my belief that there is much in the world that is out to harm our children and our best defense is an offense of preparation. This book will help prepare you and your daughter to engage in a battle of myths that could potentially harm your child (possibly even for a lifetime) and keep them from the healthy relationships God longs for them to experience. There aren't many parenting books that I advocate but this is a MUST-HAVE for all parents (including those with boys-because, hey, if you can help your son understand these myths-he'll be all the more prepared to be the kind of young man a girl would be lucky to date!) to have on their shelves. Read it. More than once. Listen. Discuss. And let's prepare our daughters to "date smart, avoid disaster, and protect her future."
*I received this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review. You can purchase The 10 Myths of Teen Dating HERE.